My Candle-Making Fiasco Continued

Chrish’s story: From Melting Wax to College Cash (Yeah, I have a Lifetime film, not really, would be cool though, hint hint … hummmm)

So, let me take you back to a time when I was just a bright-eyed high schooler with dreams bigger than my bank account. That summer, my grand plan was simple: make candles and rake in the dough. I thought, “How hard could it be?” Spoiler alert: harder than it looks. Also I got a burn on my left arm that, ’till this day looks like a p*nis, thanks wax!

I am sure you are all imagining me now: surrounded by wax, wicks, and a melting pot that looked like something out of a science experiment gone wrong or a witch’s lair (they live in lairs right?). My first attempt? Let’s just say it resembled more of a wax explosion than an artisanal candle. I had visions of selling these beauties at the local farmer’s market but ended up with what can only be described as “abstract art.” My friends would laugh—mostly because they had no idea whether to call it a candle or modern decor.

I learned quickly that there’s an art to candle making. Damn, I knew it was too easy to be true. There’s also a science. Double damn! Why didn’t anyone tell me that essential oils shouldn’t be added willy-nilly? For your information you add them nilly-willy, this works much better. The first batch turned our kitchen into what can only be described as a “lavender nightmare.” It smelled like grandma’s perfume exploded in there, but hey, at least grandma loved it!

But despite the early flops—oh boy, there were flops—I wasn’t ready to give up just yet. With each misstep (or should I say fire hazard? My uncle’s a member of the local fire department, at least he was until he went into retirement, and told me so), I picked up valuable lessons along the way. Like how not to mix scents from different seasons… because peppermint and pumpkin spice together is nothing short of disgusting, also cinamon works with remarkably little besides cinnamon! And my first attempt at dyeing candles? Let’s just say I learned that having vibrant red pillars isn’t always the best marketing strategy (thank you very much, Red Hulk . . . yeah, he’s a thing).

Fast forward several weeks—and countless trials later, (friend’s all told me they were great)—I finally started hitting my stride! After figuring out the right wick lengths and perfecting my scent combinations (a little vanilla goes a long way, not really as well with cinnamon as you’d think), things began to change for me. Suddenly those wonky blobs morphed into actual candles people wanted to buy! Can you believe it? I did the bathtub money bath, but mostly with loose change, but quarters are still money.

So here’s where the story gets interesting: not only did I sell enough candles at local craft fairs, but I also made way more money than I ever imagined possible once I started offering them online. Who knew that all those hours spent in my kitchen battling molten wax would translate into cash for college tuition? Sure, some might call it luck, I called it lucrative and didn’t really care; others might chalk it up to sheer determination (and maybe professional-grade scented disasters) like I did. But really? It was about learning from every failed attempt and embracing those messy moments along the way.

And guess what? By the end of that summer, instead of dreading college debt like most students do—there I was feeling pretty accomplished with money for the summer, money for tuition, and even some extra cash in hand for more candles. I was sixteen at the time. One summer down, a few more to go. I did it for a few more years, etsy was good to me, ebay not as much. With candle-making under my belt, who would’ve thought I’d blaze through college without burning out financially? Actually, at the start of my second year I sort of retired since I didn’t have enough time to focus on it and my reviews started to look more negative, which you know means I sold less.

The biggest takeaway? Whether you’re trying your hand at small businesses (hey, here I am again) or navigating life’s chaotic moments—embracing failure can lead you down some unexpected paths of success. So if your first <ATTEMPT> ends up being more laughable than lovely, don’t lose hope! You never know; with enough practice (or research before hand) and persistence (and perhaps fewer scented disasters, lavender still triggers me), you might just find yourself lighting your way toward something fantastic, or at least lucrative.

Now here’s a question for you: What have been your hilarious attempts at starting something new (please don’t tell me you’re the creator of Kindergarten: The Musical that would be crazy)? Trust me; sharing those stories makes us all feel better about our own quirky journeys! This was one of mine, for me, a growing experience.

Laughing Through the Trials and Errors

You know, starting a small business is a lot like trying to cook soufflé for the first time. You whip up your batter with all the enthusiasm in the world, only to find that you forgot an ingredient—or worse, you miscalculated the oven temperature and ended up creating what can only be described as a pancake. Trust me; I speak from experience here.

Let me take you back to my first foray into entrepreneurship. Picture this: excited me, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed (okay, lacking the hairy tail), ready to conquer the world with my handmade candles (I was turning 16 at the time). Why candles? Well, why not? They’re cute, they smell good, and everyone loves a flickering flame on a cozy evening. It seemed foolproof—at least until I discovered that not every wick is created equal.

On my very first attempt at pouring wax into molds, I was all about precision. In my mind’s eye, I was an artisan crafting exquisite pieces worthy of Instagram fame. Instead? I ended up creating what looked like melted crayon blobs tossed haphazardly onto a tablecloth (and don’t even get me started on the colors, a kid eating said crayons and then vomitting them up would have made better colors). Spoiler alert: no one wants to buy “Firework Fiasco” candles.

But here’s where life—and business—gets interesting. Instead of sulking over my candle catastrophe (though I did consider it for about five minutes), I decided to learn from it! And by learn, I mean frantically googling “how to make candles without looking like an art supply explosion.” P.S. Don’t google that. Thank goodness for YouTube tutorials; they were my saving grace. Sorta. What did people do before YT?

Fast forward to a few weeks later when I felt confident enough to try again—this time armed with knowledge and slightly more realistic expectations. Guess what? My second batch turned out beautifully! Well… almost beautifully (maybe you should read better). The smell was divine (albeit overpowering); however, they didn’t exactly look like something you’d want sitting on your coffee table next to your favorite mug—with their tops resembling something akin to crusty pancake batter instead of smooth candle wax. Hey! Don’t laugh!

If there’s anything I’ve learned on this rollercoaster ride of entrepreneurship (besides how NOT to make pancakes), it’s that mistakes are part of the process. Like bad hairstyles in middle school or disastrous first dates—they happen—THAT’S LIFE! What matters is how you bounce back from them, or don’t and then you’re a failure. Hey, don’t look at me like that. It’s the truth. Or as it was in my case, how many times you have your friends come over for “quality control” testing while pretending that each new batch is definitely the one. Hum, maybe that’s why it took so long now that I am thinking about it. So much for brutal honesty.

Sure enough—I made mistakes again! And again! Each time teaching me something new until finally—after countless trial-and-error evenings spent hunched over pans of melting wax much to my mother’s chagrin—I created a line of candles that people actually bought (which weren’t family members (thanks grandma))! Cue triumphant music!

Now here’s where it gets really interesting (or perhaps mildly embarrassing, though I would argue it was already pretty embarasing): just when I thought things couldn’t go wrong anymore… enter stage left: shipping disasters. One day after sending out orders filled with love and care—cue dramatic music—I received multiple emails from customers claiming their packages arrived looking as though they’d been through some sort of wrestling match with a bear, that was when Bearestling™ was born!

Imagine receiving a parcel that smells heavenly but looks like someone stomped on it ten times before throwing it at your doorstep! Then again once more when it was there for good measure. But again, instead of losing faith in humanity or giving up entirely (both tempting ideas), we had another learning opportunity on our hands! And not one on how to promote Bearestling™.

So there we were brainstorming ways to improve packaging—a bit more cushioning here and there—and experimenting with various materials until we finally found the right balance between eco-awareness (I was their before Greta, but I attended school) and durability because I peanutted the hell out of the boxes (who knew packing peanuts could be so controversial?).

What’s the moral here besides don’t wrestle with bears? Life—and running a business—is just one big experiment filled with hilarious hiccups along the way. It might seem daunting at times (most times)—but those moments (become fewest and fewer) when things go awry often lead us toward growth if we let them! Oh, and packing peanuts, even if you really don’t want them.

Embrace those little mess-ups because they are merely stepping stones toward success (at least that is what you’ll tell yourself even in retrospect you feel otherwise about them)—or at least toward making better candles next time around (especially when your friends say these are the one)! So grab your metaphorical whisk (or actual craft-making supplies) and get back in there—you never know what beautiful messes await you! Thanks mom! She always cleaned them up for me.

And hey, if nothing else—at least you’ll have some funny stories along the way… or maybe even an idea for your next small business venture: “Candle Catastrophes – A Collection!” Who could resist? Actually everyone, I tried and it didn’t work.